Sorry about the inconspicuous title. I just couldn’t think of anything to call this post without it being ridiculously long…just like this apology/explanation.
A few weeks ago, just before the school holidays while waiting for my son to come out from nursery I couldn’t help but overhear the group of mums in front of me discussing going to a local playgym.
Now in my defence I normally don’t listen into other people’s conversation but I was intrigued because part of this conversation was a mum who didn’t normally speak to anybody and here she was chatting away like they were old friends.
I felt bad for my son. I felt bad that it seemed some of his nursery friends seem to meeting up outside of school and he wasnt invited, or maybe I mis-understood after all I genuinely wasn’t listening.
Today when I collected him one of boys he considers a friend was crying. When the teacher asked why, his mum (The usually very quiet mum), advised her that everyone was going to a local playgym and although they went last time they couldn’t go today.
My heart sank. I hate the thought of my son not making friends.
Then something hit me. Maybe the issue is not BB making friends, maybe it’s my fault? Maybe if I was a mum, maybe he would also be invited. Maybe I would be let into the warmth of the conversation allowing our kids to play together?
Obviously I’m not a mum (I’ve got the moobs for it but that’s where the similarities end…except my beautifully long eyelashes) and there isn’t anything I can do about that but I find it a shame that BB could possibly be missing out because of me.
Maybe I am wrong, it wouldn’t be the first time. Maybe it’s just a case of not everybody can be invited? Maybe they just assumed that as a dad, I wouldn’t be interested in joining them at the playgym? Well you know what they say about assuming and it making an ass out of you.
Of course BB would join his friends. I don’t even have to sit near the other parents. Hell, I’ll stand outside if it makes you all feel comfortable just so my son can be happy?
I know what you’re going to say dear readers. I am sure you’re all sat shouting it at your screens.. “IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT, ITS THEIRS!” but the problem with that is that still leaves BB missing out. It may not be me that has the issue but I do have a different one. Is my son missing out because his dad is the one looking him?
Are there any dads out there who has been welcomed into mums club?
Are there any mums who understand why they would have an issue and can help advise me what I can do to possibly help the situation?
Is my son doomed to being ‘THAT’ kid that nobody wants to invite to a playdate because he will bring his dad with him?
Or is this a normal thing and I am over thinking the whole situation?
Let me know in the comments below!
As always, thanks for reading.