Look who’s NOT talking.

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I was once told that my standards are too high. This came from a good friend of mine, but I was also his boss. My answer to him at the time, was why weren’t his standards as high. Surely everyone should strive to excel and be the best you can be at whatever you are doing.

Years have passed since he told me that and over the years I have come to realise he may have a point. Especially when it comes to being a parent.


Many parents won’t admit to it, but it’s true, parenting is a competition and kids are simply the players. Some compete seriously, others just let the game pass them by. We fall into the last category. Although we have expectations of our kids, we won’t be looking to trade any players based on their performance!

We have lots of friends who have kids, all around the same age (within a year or so) and you can’t help but notice the differences. One kid will be walking by the time they are 12 months, others will be walking by 10 months. Some are already quoting Shakespeare, while others by the same age are still grunting and pointing to get their point across.

We are pretty happy with BB’s development. He seems to understand most of what we are saying and then promptly ignores it! Lol! But it is getting more and more frustrating that he is choosing to point and moan rather than use words.
We have tried encouraging him to tell us what he wants, but it doesn’t seem to be working. We’re also not going to give up, as we know this could lead him to think he doesn’t need to talk as pointing will get his message across.

Hopefully he will start using words and we can have a conversation with him, no doubt we will want him to be quiet in no time.

Have you had experiences of ‘point and moan’?
How early did your kids develop the art of speech?

What can we do to encourage him further to use words?

I’m not worried yet, my cousin didn’t mutter a word until he was 3 years old and now he’s a very smart young man, so there’s plenty of time yet.

As always, thanks for reading.


  1. Sounds like he’s doing fine and has the ability to talk but perhaps not the inclination yet. Dylan was like that and was quite late to start talking even though he clearly understood a lot. I think he knew how to, but didn’t see the point in using language and until he realised he could gain something from it. Now we can’t shut him up! Keep encouraging him and the penny will drop – then you’ll be having to answer questions all day! 🙂

    1. Thanks for the comment.
      We encourage all we can and I am sure he will just start yapping one day.

      Look forward to having a conversation with him, even if it’s about why hes eating stones! lol

  2. Ours are both great little talkers, although Jake has a problem with prununciation. We’ve just talk to them at a lot: the more they hear the more they’ll pick up. We’ve also largely avoided baby-talk,I think that helps too. As you say all children develop differently. I particularly notice that with twins: their development is quite different: each has different strengths & weaknesses, & they often seem to leapfrog each other. Sounds like he’s doing fine to me!

    1. Thanks for the comment.
      We talk to BB all the time, so its good to hear we seem to be doing the right things. We read ‘together’ alot and he sems to understand things we say, so I am sure it will come with time.

  3. It’s hard not to do the comparison to other children and wonder why your’s isn’t doing something isn’t it? I think you just have to be patient, try and read as much as you can with them and also talk to him as you are saying what things are. One thing we found is we kept saying to Matilda ‘do you want this’ so all she then said was ‘this, this, this’ and getting very irate. So now we make sure to say the name of everything etc.

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